Happy 2011 to all of the Y4H team and our TiG community. It is the time of year when most of us take a little time out to reflect on what happened the year behind us and look forward to what the new year is bringing ahead of us. For many, this means creating New Year's Resolutions, those promises and commitments to the world for change.
This might mean eating better and exercising (particularly after a season where we eat a little more and exercise a little less), devoting more time to friends and family, maybe being a little more devout in our faith or committed to our community -- lots of really good things.
The problem with New Years Resolutions is that they put a LOT on us to be better RIGHT NOW. While that is possible, it isn't always reasonable or fair to expect such massive change so quickly. As it turns out, its also not that healthy. Our lives are what could be called a complex system, which means that there are a lot of factors influencing us every day and they mix and match with our activities in ways that are different each day.
Think about studying for an exam or going to work. Despite everything being pretty much the same, you have good days and bad days, days when you're super-energized and those when you're a little down. These could to be due to small shifts in diet, a memory, a look or a word from a friend or stranger, and while these are all small, such small things can have gigantic impacts on how we experience our day, depending on lots of things.
When we make plans, what we do is make the assumption that we can control our days and influence how we will react. For the most part that's true, but those areas where we can't can really make life difficult for our plans and sometimes means that maybe we won't keep to that diet we set for ourselves (which aren't really healthy to begin with) or maybe we'll miss going for a run or to the gym.
But that's all OK. The secret isn't to quit, it's to keep going. Try again.
So do we not plan for change? No way. The intentions are good, but the way to make things work is to try some small things. Do a very small change every day. As you do that, and succeed, you get some confidence and momentum and can add to that. If you don't succeed, evaluate what worked and didn't and try again or try something else. But as you do this, bit by bit, you'll find that your success rate will increase and so will your sense of accomplishment.
It's simple, but not easy. But it's also making things a little more fair to you as you go forth with your plans. If you're interested in more of this discussion, I have another blog where I've posted some further tips:
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http://bit.ly/dWcsJN
A happy and healthy New Year to everyone!